I'm thinking a lot about R right now. I'm remembering that he isn't beside me when I wake up. I'm remembering that it's only six months until he returns. His arrival gets closer.
Mom was here last week. There were good times. She decorated my apartment. She said, "It's too plain." She said, "I needed to add personal touches." So now I have a gold table cloth and decorative napkins that aren't for use only for looks. I have plastic fruit in a red bowl. I have fake green plants in the bathrooms. Everything I haven't gotten around to is done for me. She did it for me. The night before Thanksgiving I come home to small personal touches. At first I thought, "This isn't what I picked out." But it made Thanksgiving festive. I can bring the stuff out on the holidays. Later I can pick out everyday things to decorate my home. For now, it'll do.
When Mom left, the atmosphere changed. I am reminded of the emptiness all over again. I'm used to it. I've found a routine. Not a good one, but a routine. I get up just to allow myself enough time to get ready in the morning, go to work, come home, eat, work on the computer (mainly writing), then sleep. It starts all over again the next day.
What throws me off are the weekends. No distractions. No obligations. I know, I need to take the initiative to plan things and to meet new people. A lot of the times I want to wrap myself in my light blue bedspread and curl up on the couch and read a book or work on my laptop and create that perfect story.
A perfect story?
Well, sitting on the couch and living in my head isn't creating my story.
There was a trip Mom and I took last week. We went to a small island nearby and walked the old streets of a small beach town. I went into shops. I found two bookstores. The first was an expensive bookstore which carried first editions and autographed books. I feel in love with it. Two blocks down was another one. This bookstore was more relaxed and welcoming. I went inside and came across two local authors promoting their books.
I found myself browsing the children's section looking for books for my classroom. I went to the register to purchased my items and the cashier was a sweet lady with and Irish accent. We chatted. She shared a piece of her life with me and some history of the place. I shared a piece of my life with her as well.
Experiences like this help me find my perfect story. Most of all, those I love helps me thrive.